The Sensual Sanctuary: Intimacy

In•ti•ma•cy: the state of being intimate



What does being intimate actually mean?

When you say intimacy or being intimate, most people think you're talking about sex. But being intimate with someone is so much more than that. Don't get me wrong, being intimate can lead to sex and vice versa. But being intimate doesn't always mean having sex.

Intimacy involves an emotional connection that you have with another person. Someone you trust, someone you deeply care for, someone you are unafraid to share your thoughts, desires & dreams with. Someone who you can be your true authentic self with.

Personally, I believe that sex is a lot more meaningful & pleasurable when you have a partner whom you share an intimate connection with. Not only is sex with an intimate partner more enjoyable, it's also beneficial to your physical & mental health.

Although, sex & intimacy are different, they are interconnected. You may need to feel loved and cared for in order to be sexually intimate; and, your partner may need to perform sexually to show that they love and care for you.

There are different types of intimacy (love languages) and it is important to understand the differences. You or your partner may prefer one more than the others (or all of them).

  • Physical - spending quality time with one another. Physical intimacy is an integral part in cultivating ah healthy & long-lasting relationship.
  • Emotional - involves trust & being vulnerable. Being able to communicate your thoughts and emotions with the expectation of understanding & support.
  • Sensual - involves physical touch, such as a relaxing & sexy massage. Having the ability to connect physically and evoke feelings of pleasure that doesn't involve sex.  
  • Sex - intercourse or any other form of sex.
  • Spiritual - having the ability to share beliefs, values and ideas on a higher level. Having a connection that transcends the physical realm.

WHAT ARE THE HEALTH BENEFITS OF INTIMACY?

 

  • Reduces stress
  • Improves immunity
  • Boosts mood & sense of well-being
  • Promotes a deeper connection with your partner
  • Reduces overeating and/or undereating
  • Improves sleep (orgasms help you sleep better)
  • Can lower risk of heart attacks, stroke & hypertension
  • Strengthens muscles 
  • Increases libido
  • Burns calories
  • May provide relief from migraines

 

Sex & intimacy play an integral role in our lives and our well-being. Sex may not always be a factor in certain intimate connections and vice versa. If you are in a sexual relationship; it's important to communicate your sexual & intimate needs to your partner. It is also important to reciprocate the needs of your partner in order to have a happy, healthy and long-lasting relationship. 

Create some fun ways to incorporate intimacy into your sex life:
  • In front of a mirror, explore each other's bodies.
  • Play show & tell. As your partner watches, use your hand to show them where you want to be touched & how.
  • Try blind oral.
  • Take turns giving each other a sexy massage.
  • Don't touch your partner with your hands. For the entirety of the session, explore each other's bodies with your lips, skin & breath.
Have some fun and spice things up with your partner. Sex should not be stressful & intimacy should deepen the connection between you & your partner.
If you are experiencing a hormonal imbalance(s) that may have a negative impact on your intimate life, feel free to schedule a consultation today.
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